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31st Oct 2016

004 Pharaoh Kaf-Ra (Shakir Rashaan) D is for Dominant

Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth, an intimacy coach and psychologist and I am your host.  We are working our way through the erotic alphabet, one letter at a time.  Today the letter is D and D is for Dominant.   Dominant is defined as having power or influence over others.  A person who considers him or herself a dominant is one who takes the role of the leader in a sexual or romantic relationship in which there is a power exchange.  Joining me today is

Pharaoh Khaf-Ra is a lifestyle Master with over twenty years of experience in the real-time BDSM/Fetish community. He has facilitated webinars and classes at various conventions and conferences on D/s dynamics and other topics. He is one half of a Dominant Couple-led House, the House of Kemi-nesew, married to Empress Nahara, a founding sister of the Onyx Pearls Southeast. Pharaoh is also an accomplished published author, writing under the pen name of Shakir Rashaan, with over a dozen credits to his catalog.   

The most important traits for a Dominant in any relationship include patience, mastery of self, integrity and flexibility.  Pharaoh Khaf-Ra points out that a variety of kingdoms in ages past were led by married couples and highlights the stability that two leaders can bring.   He also highlights the time it takes to build any relationship and to build a good relationship based on power exchange.  Any goals are longer term and expecting things to happen all at once is the quickest way to destroy a relationship.  He references three different power exchange relationships that helped him to hone his own ideas over the years.   Delegation is an essential skill for leaders of any type and it is a wise Master who makes full use of those who serve him.   

Shakir Rashaan is the author of the bestselling Nubian Underworld series (The Awakening, Legacy, Tempest) and the Kink, P.I. series (Obsession, Deception, Reckoning) and several anthology credits, including Zane Presents Z-Rated: Chocolate Flava 3. Rashaan is also developing other projects under the pen name P.K. Rashaan. He currently resides in suburban Atlanta with his wife and two children. You can see more of Rashaan at ShakirRashaan.com.

Website link: www.ShakirRashaan.com

FB Link: www.facebook.com/ShakirRashaanEsquire/

Twitter Link: www.twitter.com/ShakirRashaan

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Welcome to the A to Z of Sex! Each week I explore a letter of the erotic alphabet, covering topics from arousal to zipless f*cks. While exploring, you will learn more about desire, how to express your desires and how to spice up your relationships and create that long lasting sizzling hot relationship you have always wanted. My guests and I will share solid science, practical techniques and real life stories. We’ll answer the questions you have been too embarrassed to ask and talk about the down and dirty details that can make or break that intimate experience. . Knowledge gives you the power to create relationships that bring you satisfaction and joy. Join me, Dr Lori Beth Bisbey, The Intimacy Coach, weekly on the A to Z of Sex podcast and discover the many layers and many flavours of sex and sexuality and how to apply these to your intimate relationships. To find out more, read the companion blog and connect with me go to www.atozofsex.com.

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Dr Lori Beth Bisbey® is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach, accredited advance GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity) therapist (Pink Therapy), speaker, media personality, author & podcast host who has been working with people since for more than 30 years to help them create and maintain meaningful relationships with sizzling sex (without the shame). She has expertise in the treatment of trauma and GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity). Dr Lori Beth spends a lot of time working with people who want to try or already live as consensually non-monogamous or in authority transfer based relationships (BDSM and/or kink) or both. The A to Z of Sex® (her main podcast) has been running since October 2016. From 2019-2021, there were live broadcasts on the Health & Wellness Channel of VoiceAmerica.com. Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is the resident specialist relationship therapist on Channel 4's Open House: The Great Sex Experiment.