Episode 18

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4th Mar 2019

Reboot: T is for Talking Dirty

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Hi everyone!  Welcome to the A to Z of Sex.  I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host.  We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time.  Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. The A to Z of Sex is on location this week, visiting Mistress Max Rulz.  Today the letter is T and T is for Talking Dirty. 

Perry wasn't the best looking guy, a little overweight, a little unkempt.  He wore thick glasses, plain jeans and he tended to slouch.  Most men and women didn't find Perry attractive until he spoke.  Perry's voice was liquid smooth and deep.  He made love with his voice even when talking. about ordinary things.  But when he decided to talk sex, well the person he was talking to was lost.

Perry liked to create a sensory rich scene so detailed that you felt pulled into the world he was created.  The scenes he created were plush like deep velvet.  They enveloped you, captivated you and did not let you go until after he had finished.

Mz Max and I talked about talking dirty to communicate your desires to your partner and how hard it is for so many people to speak their truth when it comes to what they want.  We talked about how much shame there is around sex. 

Mz Max talked about how masturbation involves us talking dirty to ourselves.  That all masturbation needs a script.  She talked about how basic and primal sex is and meant for enjoyment and pleasure.    And how much shame still exists about sex. 

We spoke about talking dirty for foreplay, and how talking dirty is different than writing or texting.  Mz Max talked about how often what people wrote to her was so different when in person – how body language illustrated the shame or the embarrassment or the areas that are just fantasy and not based in reality.

Mz Max talked about how kinky folk negotiate before having sex.  Mz Max said that every person is deliciously perverted at least in their own head.  

Finally we talked about how talking dirty brings you into the now.  So you are fully present in sex.  And how difficult this is for people in modern society but how much better sex is when you are completely engaged.

Thanks for joining me for the A to Z of SexÒ.

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The A to Z of Sex
The A to Z of Sex Podcast
Welcome to the A to Z of Sex! Each week I explore a letter of the erotic alphabet, covering topics from arousal to zipless f*cks. While exploring, you will learn more about desire, how to express your desires and how to spice up your relationships and create that long lasting sizzling hot relationship you have always wanted. My guests and I will share solid science, practical techniques and real life stories. We’ll answer the questions you have been too embarrassed to ask and talk about the down and dirty details that can make or break that intimate experience. . Knowledge gives you the power to create relationships that bring you satisfaction and joy. Join me, Dr Lori Beth Bisbey, The Intimacy Coach, weekly on the A to Z of Sex podcast and discover the many layers and many flavours of sex and sexuality and how to apply these to your intimate relationships. To find out more, read the companion blog and connect with me go to www.atozofsex.com.

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Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey® is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach, accredited advance GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity) therapist (Pink Therapy), speaker, media personality, author & podcast host who has been working with people since for more than 30 years to help them create and maintain meaningful relationships with sizzling sex (without the shame). She has expertise in the treatment of trauma and GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity). Dr Lori Beth spends a lot of time working with people who want to try or already live as consensually non-monogamous or in authority transfer based relationships (BDSM and/or kink) or both. The A to Z of Sex® (her main podcast) has been running since October 2016. From 2019-2021, there were live broadcasts on the Health & Wellness Channel of VoiceAmerica.com. Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is the resident specialist relationship therapist on Channel 4's Open House: The Great Sex Experiment.