A is for Authority Transfer
A is for Authority Transfer
Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Sorry for moving from Y to A this time, but I did not have a ready Z and I have some great guests for A. Today the letter is A and A is for Authority Transfer.
Authority Transfer is used in place of Power Exchange by many people as they see power as remaining with the individual and what is being exchanged is the authority over the person (power included).
Today I am joined by Master Seykou and slave luna (Mama’s Sun and Mama’s Moon) are a heterosexual monogamous leather Master/slave couple that live in Denver, Colorado. They are active in the various Colorado communities and served as 2016 Colorado Master and slave.
Together they are founding members of the Leather Houses of Color Coalition and the Lighthouse BDSM Community Phone In. slave luna is the co-director of MaST Denver Females chapter and Denver Metro Community Liaison for the Hard Pink Sisterhood.
Master Seykou and slave luna look forward to connecting and sharing their Master/slave dynamic with others.
We started with a definition of authority exchange. Master Seykou spoke about the difference between power exchange – where one person is handing over power to another, and therefore is diminished (as they no longer hold their own power) and authority transfer where both parties still hold their own power but one person surrenders authority to the other.
One example luna gave was of driving in the car. She said the rule is no cell phone use in the car. She told me about picking up the phone without even thinking about it and Master Seykou saying put the phone down.. She said that when she got to the next traffic light, she picked the phone up again and he took the phone and threw it down in the well on his side of the car.
Luna described having the power to pull over to the side of the road and curse Master Seykou out and pick up her phone as she pays the bill for the phone. She said that she didn’t have the authority to do that because she has surrendered to Master Seykou and given him authority over her and it is his responsibility to keep them both safe.
We spoke about consent and the differences between grooming and abusive relationships and those that are consent based. We covered how relationships can have multiple levels, multiple dynamics at the same time: Being in a Master/slave dynamic and being married for example.
We covered scenes versus play and the amount of negotiation that goes on when you engage in each. We spoke about the boring bits of authority transfer that include being told to do chores or to go to bed to rest – things that most people don’t consider to be sexy and yet these are the bedrock of our dynamics.
We spoke about the relief in surrendering and that many people who choose to surrender are very powerful people in their daily lives and can be control freaks as well. The desire to put down that responsibility can be extremely intense.
Today we talked about authority exchange, BDSM, M/s relationships
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You can find Master Seykou and slave luna:
https://facebook.com/thesunandhismoon/
https://twitter.com/seykouandluna/
https://www.instagram.com/thesunandhismoon/
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