Episode 24

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26th Mar 2018

Reboot: Y is for Yes

We hope you enjoy this reboot of: Y is for Yes.

 

Hi everyone!  Welcome to the A to Z of Sex. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time.  Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is Y and why is for YES!!

People who are willing to say yes to live, love and sex are people who have happier and more satisfying relationships. People who say YES! take more and better risks. They are better able to ride the waves of life and love and to deal with the occasional drenching when the wave breaks over their heads. The glass of water is half full. When they fall, they dust themselves off and get back up again.

Today I’m joined by Melanie Gorman, who is the senior VP of Yourtango Experts. Yourtango is a major platform that provides advice in the form of blogs, articles, and videos to people who want help with love, relationships, sex and life. Experts join this platform and provide the blogs, articles, Q&A and videos to the public at large. A couple of the more well known experts include Dr John Gray and Esther Perel. Melanie is the moderator of the successful video programme The Experts. She is a Master’s level relationship therapist and a business and relationship coach. She co-developed a coaching program based on the work of Dr John Gray, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus for those of you not familiar with his name. From there she became the director of operations for the MarsVenus sites. She has been working with Yourtango since 2009, having started by helping their visionary team create the Expert’s Platform. She is now heading up all the expert’s programmes and the first in person YTExperts conference which will take place in NYC in April 2017.

Let’s talk about this concept of YES!. In my experience, it isn’t easy to move people from a ‘no’ life view to a YES one but it is so important for helping people create exciting and satisfying lives – lives lived out loud with few regrets. Melanie and I went on to talk about how saying ‘yes’ to life requires taking responsibility for your actions, learning resilience, being willing to fail and knowing that when you do – you learn for the future and the ability to dust yourself off and get back up again. 

We spoke about how enriching this lifestyle is and how important it is for people to be willing to risk, especially if they do not have average desires, wishes and dreams. People who live alternative lifestyles don’t just ‘fall into’ the relationship for them. They have to be willing to risk and live out loud, being clear about their wants and needs. 

We spoke about how for women, yes often means looking after others first and that this is not what we are talking about. We are talking about figuring out your own heart’s desire and then saying yes to that which sometimes means putting yourself first.

We spoke about how choosing yes means going to your final rest having lived your life fully, with few regrets.

Thanks for joining me this week for the A to Z of Sex. Write in with your questions to drloribeth@atozofsex.com and visit both websites www.atozofsex.com and www.the-intimacy-coach.com to learn about alternative sexual choices, types of sexual relationships and to learn to sizzle and create that ideal lasting intimate relationship. For a free 30 minute session with me, head over to www.atozofsex.com and click on the button that says ‘book now’.  Please join me next week when the letter will be Z.

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The A to Z of Sex
The A to Z of Sex Podcast
Welcome to the A to Z of Sex! Each week I explore a letter of the erotic alphabet, covering topics from arousal to zipless f*cks. While exploring, you will learn more about desire, how to express your desires and how to spice up your relationships and create that long lasting sizzling hot relationship you have always wanted. My guests and I will share solid science, practical techniques and real life stories. We’ll answer the questions you have been too embarrassed to ask and talk about the down and dirty details that can make or break that intimate experience. . Knowledge gives you the power to create relationships that bring you satisfaction and joy. Join me, Dr Lori Beth Bisbey, The Intimacy Coach, weekly on the A to Z of Sex podcast and discover the many layers and many flavours of sex and sexuality and how to apply these to your intimate relationships. To find out more, read the companion blog and connect with me go to www.atozofsex.com.

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Lori Beth Bisbey

Dr Lori Beth Bisbey® is a psychologist, sex & intimacy coach, accredited advance GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity) therapist (Pink Therapy), speaker, media personality, author & podcast host who has been working with people since for more than 30 years to help them create and maintain meaningful relationships with sizzling sex (without the shame). She has expertise in the treatment of trauma and GSRD (gender, sex, relationship diversity). Dr Lori Beth spends a lot of time working with people who want to try or already live as consensually non-monogamous or in authority transfer based relationships (BDSM and/or kink) or both. The A to Z of Sex® (her main podcast) has been running since October 2016. From 2019-2021, there were live broadcasts on the Health & Wellness Channel of VoiceAmerica.com. Dr Lori Beth Bisbey is the resident specialist relationship therapist on Channel 4's Open House: The Great Sex Experiment.